One obstacle to a healthy relationship is lack of communication. If you speak english but your spouse speaks Swahili, there is a problem. In order to communicate, it would require both parities to learn the other partner's language to make the marriage work. 

You might think you are showing love to your spouse because you buy them gifts but what if their love language is words of affirmation. Click the image to take the love language test (designed by Dr. Gary Chapman) with your spouse!